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Anger is a natural, healthy emotion. At its best, it lets us appropriately express ourselves when something is troubling us, bringing resolve and a better relationship moving forward. At its worst, anger controls our thinking, making us say things and act in ways that we regret later, and may be provoked very easily. Sometimes we may recognize we have a problem controlling our anger. Other times, it may take the intervention of a spouse, friend, parent, child, employer or, at worst, the court to force us to get help. The good news is that help is available for everyone seeking to control anger.
You have the power to deal well with your anger, but first you must recognize if you have a problem. Are you easily angered? Do you have regrettable verbal or physical outbursts when angry, or outbursts that have serious consequences for you, your job, your family, or your friends? Do small issues often escalate into full-blown confrontations? Do you find yourself unable to clearly express yourself when angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may benefit from anger management counseling..
Learning to recognize, label and deal with emotion, along with having appropriate thoughts and responses to anger are some of the keys to anger management. Paying attention to yourself, and expressing your thoughts and feelings well are necessary skills. Anger management teaches you to identify when you are getting angry before it actually happens. It gives you the chance to take a step back and analyze the situation from an objective viewpoint by asking questions such as: Is it this worth getting mad about? Why am I getting angry over this? Is there a better way to handle this situation than with anger? Once you can take a step back from the situation to evaluate it clearly, you are able to remove yourself from your anger, allowing the most beneficial course of action to be decided.
Expressing yourself effectively when angry is another important skill you will learn. When in a rage, people may yell or become violent, resulting in further troubles with the person or the police. By expressing your anger in a way that indicates to the other party that you are upset, without threatening them, allows them to correct their actions as well. Anger that leads to rage, blaming, shaming or provocation will never evoke a favourable response. Anger can evoke fear, intimidation, or anger in turn, none of which are good to help correct the situation at hand. By channeling anger in an appropriate way, you will learn to express your anger in a way that helps the situation come to a mutually satisfying ending.