Many people come for counseling to deal with anger issues.
Initial improvements can be had with fairly simple changes. For some, if they are constantly tired from not sleeping, for example, it may be a simple change. Old pillows are often the cause of a lack of sleep. On a 4 year old pillow, 20% of the weight is from dust mites. No one should sleep on a pillow that is 4 years old or older. Throwing out those old pillows (even if grandma gave that one to you) has literally saved lives.
Diet can also affect your mood. A lack of Omega 3’s will cause a person to be angry. If a client’s diet is found to be lacking in Omega 3 nutrients, the person will first start by taking a quality supplement. An Omega 3 rich diet has been shown to correct anger in over 30% of prisoners. An Omega supplement or a can of sardines can help with this deficiency. For some of the research read Dr. Mark Hyman’s book The Ultra Mind Solution or consult a diet specialist.
Allergies can severely influence mood also. Some are very allergic to dairy products which has been known to contribute to anger in some reactive people.
For others, they need to be educated about the 5 steps to take to resolve an issue. One step is how to begin with an objective opening sentence that invites cooperation. Many times what we want to say and what is understood are two very different things, and it is therefore important to keep that in mind at all times, especially when tackling anger management. There are several steps for a successful interaction that deals with the issue without engaging in or inviting any non-productive emotion.
You are the only one who can control your mood. If your heart rate is above 90 beats a minute, some higher thinking processes stop. It is therefore better to leave, calm down for an hour and then proceed with a discussion. If you are calm, the issue is the problem. If you are raging, you are the problem. Being in control of your own mood and able to calm yourself are crucial. Your reaction to something is your responsibility regardless of the behaviour of others.
As you can see, everything can influence anger from our environment, our diet, our communication style, our physical condition, our emotions, and our past. By exploring all possible sources, a solution can be created that addresses directly your personal issues.
We all carry unprocessed, unresolved emotions from our past. Some people are taking anger from earlier times in their lives and directing it in present day to others. These people need intensive counseling to resolve these issues. This process is simplified into easy-to-follow steps.