A Gift for those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 3


I want to thank each and every veteran, first responder and those unsung heroes who have quietly

faced trauma in one way or another to help others. I honor you.


As the child of two veterans both in post-traumatic stress, I understand not only what you have

sacrificed, but the impact of a traumatized parent on a family. My parents did not fall into the drug

and alcohol pit, nor were they violent. However, I watched as they cycled through mood swings,

dissociation, nightmares, flashbacks, avoidance, triggers, and physical problems. At times, it was

an obsessive conversation between my father and his fellow veterans. At other times, it was the

cold silence of the elephant in the room that every family member avoided as my mother tried to

deal with the black depressions that hounded her life. Even though they tried, there was little joy.

As children, my brothers and I grew up assuming these behaviours were normal. And they were

normal ……..to families living with PTSD. This effect goes on for generations unless it is treated



The impact of PTSD on families has been recorded in David Finkel’s new book Thank You for Your



While there are issues unique to each population of those who experience post-traumatic stress

(PTSD), there are overlaps in presentation. Whether you are a veteran, first responder, the victim

of a crime, accident, human trafficking, or some kind of abuse (physical, sexual, extreme or ritual),

or if you have experienced a long-term relationship with a narcissist, post-traumatic stress, has,

at its core, a similar presentation. These issues effect more than just the person who experienced

or witnessed the traumatizing incident. To some degree, they impact everyone around them,

including future generations.


I started this article with the stress PTSD places on families because for veterans, police officers

and others in uniform who are repeatedly exposed to stressful, dangerous situations, there is a

culture of ‘man up’. There is the idea that you can deal with it on your own. How is that working

for you? How is it working for those you love?


It didn’t work for the four young veterans who recently took their own lives. So tragic.

I realize that a main motivator for those who risk themselves is to save others. You and your

family need to have courage to face what could be the biggest challenge of your life…yourself,

your thoughts and feelings. It is time to save your loved ones by first saving yourself.

For hundreds, perhaps thousands of years, the emotions of our people were sacrificed on

battlefields and in soul-numbing working conditions. We could not afford to have emotion under

those circumstances. This avoidance of feelings became a cultural norm as our ancestors died or

were wounded physically and emotionally. We learned from infancy to keep a stiff upper lip, to not

speak about our problems, to grow up and stop being such a crybaby. This toughen up culture

still destroys our humanity.


As family members and human beings we need to deal with our emotions. When we suppress

or repress them, we pay huge prices in terms of our quality of life, sanity and health of not only

ourselves but for generations to come.


The biggest tragedy is that the most powerful methods to heal PTSD and safely and effectively

deal with our feelings are relatively unknown. Energy Psychology (EP) is a cutting-edge method

that really works for trauma. Lest it seem too unusual, Harvard Medical School now teaches

acupuncture, the basic form of energy balancing. Energy psychology has recently been accepted

by the American Psychological Association. There is some very exciting research. The work of

Dr. David Feinstein is showing dramatic, encouraging results.


In my experience as a counselor, using energy field techniques, I have helped many

people suffering from PTSD. Besides teaching clients basic energy balancing, I use a method

called Swaying. As yet, Swaying, while effective, has not been proven. Other EP methodologies,

such as Gary Craig’s Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also practiced by Nick Ortner as

Tapping; and Eye Movement Desensitization Reprogramming (EMDR) are already well on their

way to being recognized among practitioners and the general public.


Of course, working with a skilled therapist is the best route. However, you can start to help

yourself by learning some of these methods. You can do a search about Tapping, EFT or several

other EP methods. As you learn them, you will quickly access the emotional and mental freedom

for which you fought so hard. All you have to lose is the trauma.


My gift for you is the awareness that energy psychology can deal with your PTSD. There is hope

for a great life.


Peace and joy for the holiday season.


Further Reading

Eden, Donna; Feinstein, David Ph.D. Energy Medicine

Gallo, Fred P. Ph.D. Energy Tapping for Trauma

Mayer, Michael Ph.D. Energy Psychology


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3 thoughts on “A Gift for those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

  • liz

    The spouses have a role to play. Just the basics can be useful but many don`t know; for example when someone a vet or anyone returns home after a significant absence, they are rattled if things are not as they remembered them. So it helps to have the same routines in place, even decor. Sudden crashing noises are to be avoided! We sometimes never think of these things. good luck.

  • Jac

    Thank you for this article. I think that it is important for everyone to understand as much as they can about PTSD. I really liked how you also tied this struggle to the community as whole by saying that soldiers aren’t the only ones. It can happen to anyone who has been through a traumatic experience. I am going to share this with my family. Thank you for the insights.